tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post6925074874335324091..comments2019-10-25T21:57:39.701-04:00Comments on Turtle Is A Verb: Professional vs. Autistictuttleturtle42http://www.blogger.com/profile/10200741889496874805noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-82018145357425080182016-11-03T17:18:04.045-04:002016-11-03T17:18:04.045-04:00Please don't say "I do agree with you&quo...Please don't say "I do agree with you" on thing I did not state. <br /><br />I do not worry about acting any sort of "professional neurotypical", do not suggest to people that they should. I am autistic, and act autistic. <br /><br />What I find frustrating isn't anything about what amount of empathy people expect me to have or anything at all resembling attempting to pass. <br /><br />It's that people only can see me one way at a time, they only see one aspect of me. And they only listen to me when they see the "professional" aspect. I want to be listened to because I'm autistic, on autistic matters. Yet, I cannot be, I can be listened to because I work with other people. That's incredibly frustrating and says that my experiences don't matter. <br />tuttleturtle42https://www.blogger.com/profile/10200741889496874805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-87582576466082794042016-11-03T03:50:24.611-04:002016-11-03T03:50:24.611-04:00Autistic people have affective empathy, which is t...Autistic people have affective empathy, which is the ability to relate to other people's emotions. Sometimes they just need to be told the emotions that someone is experiencing, or sometimes the emotions are too difficult for them to deal with, and they react in inappropriate ways.<br /><br />Cognitive empathy, or Theory of Mind, means the ability to read between the lines; to discern other people's intentions, motives, etc.. This fact means that autistic people are easily taken advantage of or deceived and this may make them very wary of the world and unlikely to trust people.<br /><br />The reason they may appear to be unable to understand that someone else is capable of having another opinion is because they may be black and write thinkers, very likely to adhere to rules and be unable to stray from their personal morals and values, and need to overstate themselves because nobody takes their opinions seriously.<br /><br />You are exactly one of the people that the poster is talking about. Please educate yourself. You do not have the right EVER to argue with an autistic person about their extensive knowledge and their lived experience of a condition they have and you do not.Sara Sestakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17311156359164140037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-58106920210754180202016-11-03T03:49:12.386-04:002016-11-03T03:49:12.386-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sara Sestakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17311156359164140037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-9104188775908071692016-11-03T03:48:52.898-04:002016-11-03T03:48:52.898-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Sara Sestakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17311156359164140037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-14855927086086911792016-11-02T17:21:46.742-04:002016-11-02T17:21:46.742-04:00Sorry meant to say "emotional intelligence&qu...Sorry meant to say "emotional intelligence". This is also referred to as "EQ" in some businessy things. Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01176783553234670043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7330514565040708582.post-13810724886906501302016-11-02T17:21:00.261-04:002016-11-02T17:21:00.261-04:00I'm not sure how the fact that *some* autistic...I'm not sure how the fact that *some* autistic children/adults struggle with Theory of Mind is necessarily negative or putting down those people. Theory of Mind by itself usually involves first knowing that other people have thoughts, beliefs, and desires, then understanding that those can be different than your own, then being able to distinguish their thoughts/beliefs/situation from your own to predict what they will do. There have been studies about this concept (basically the classic puppet thing where someone hides something from one puppet and you have to figure out what they don't know, that you do know). Now, higher 'functioning' autistic people tend to have this, either having no deficit in it, having improved naturally in it, or having actually been taught it. A temporary malfunction can be the cause of a variety of social problems. I've seen this enough that I know it's an issue for some kids (and sometimes adults).<br /><br />I do agree though that it can be frustrating to be expected to have the extreme degree of empathy and emotional IQ that some others have or the irrational level that some people expect from others (that one is frustrating to neurotypicals and autistics alike) and to have to constantly worry about appearing 'professionally neurotypical'.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01176783553234670043noreply@blogger.com